Gay Marriage is perhaps the issue of our time. In California, where the major gay marriage battle took place, Prop 8 passed reversing the state Supreme Court ruling from the Spring. In my short lifetime* I have never seen a political issue that raised such a ruckus. I knew that no matter how the vote came out emotions would continue to flare. I did not expect what has since happened. The numerous protests have far exceeded my expectations.
It appears obvious that the emotions for the pro-gay marriage crowd are more greatly stirred up than the opponents. Had the vote gone the other way, I doubt the protests would have been so numerous and well attended. Candlelight vigils would be more likely with lots of punditry and plans for potential legal changes. I don't see this as an issue of one side being better more mature, but actions fueled by different emotions. From what I can tell the pro-gay marriage proponents see this as the civil rights struggle of their lifetime. On the other side, the opponents see themselves as protecting something that's sacred to them. If pushed into the right corner, they could act the way that the pro-gay marriage supporters have.
Many of the pro-gay marriage folks blame the passage of Prop 8 on the LDS church due to it's strong support of the measure. While the LDS church did provide a great deal of man power and financial support (via individual member contributions). The LDS presence in California is rather small and not near enough to sway an election, at least as far as voter support is concerned. The efforts for the LDS members certainly had an impact, but that's not unusual. It's common for people who believe in a cause to put in a little bit extra to support public policy they believe is right. Being better organized is not a crime.
While I believe the efforts of the faith groups in California did much to pass the proposition, the No-on-8 people hurt themselves as well. They committed the worst public relations nightmare...ON PURPOSE. Of course they probably did not think it would be a problem, and I'm willing to be that many still don't considering what's happened in the weeks since. Stealing lawn signs, while somewhat innocuous, is still a major problem. It's not so much that it happened, it's the scale on which it happened. Both sides were party to this particular indiscretion, however, it appears that the No-on-8 group perpetrated this on a grander scale. Combine that with the vandalism that occurred, and you have a serious problem.
The vote on November 4th did not quell the emotions, and may have insighted even more anger. I haven't heard as much about vandalism, though I've heard of threats against supporters of Prop 8. The most prominent might be Scott Eckern, the former Art Director from the California Musical Theater. Eckern donated $1,000 to the Yes on 8 campaign and was essentially forced out of his job. Now boycotts are planned for all things Utah, even the Sundance Film Festival, which is interesting since Robert Redford likely would have opposed Prop 8 (I don't know for sure).
Proponents of gay marriage continue to do themselves a disservice by the public behavior that's making the news. Rarely is such behavior justified. It continues to damage the reputation of the position. This group would be better served by taking the high road, rather than submit to the basest emotions that's enslaved them. Granted the displays are largely performed by a minority, but not enough voices from the camp at large have risen to condemn the behavior. If there are voice's that have not been loud enough. If the gay community wants to be taken seriously and people listen to them, they much reach out. Being angry and passing blame will continue the most damaging factor surrounding this issue. People who oppose gay marriage should be allowed to due so without retaliation. I support the rights to boycott, but I do not support intimidation and vandalism. That amounts to totalitarianism and violates the spirit of the rights these folks claim to be after.
The real solution is to privatize marriage. Marriage is a religious ceremony and should remain so. We would be better served to have the domestic partnership or civil unions for all at the state level, and let the religions take care of the marriage aspect. I think that two adults should be able to have the same rights as a married couples. This is especially important when it comes to visitation rights and medical decisions. This is more than about marriage. This can cover cases of an elderly parent and a child where the child is responsible for the care of the elderly adult. I think there are a lot of situations where these rights can come in very handy for the benefit of society.
Another kicker on the marriage front is the issue of polygamy. So far the gay marriage supporters have not made effort to gain equality for those small towns in southern Utah and northern Arizona. If they did that, they'd actually be consistent when they say they are just looking for equality. I know there are issues in some of the compounds where underage marriages are forced, but looking at things from the side of consenting adults you could make the same case the gay marriage supporters are making. I can probably guarantee that most of them would oppose the idea.
The issue of polygamy left me thinking about the issue in a different way. If people marry polygamously in this country, they go to jail (in theory at least). What if gay people get married, do they go to jail? Gay marriage is simply not recognized. Why the inconsistency in the 21st century? Shouldn't we just say that polygamous marriages are not recognized. Perhaps you could fine people if they are able to sneak one into the legal system, then just annul it. I guess it's the cohabitation thing that gets people into trouble, but is the government going to arrest some guy that's living with multiple women who are merely girlfriends? I doubt it. Maybe it's just one of those imponderables.
That's my take on the aftermath.
* Contrary to what my wife says, I still consider myself relatively young.